In conversation with a friend she seemed to have the idea that she could just will herself out of her dissatisfaction with her life. Will herself to happiness. That happiness was just a choice that she could make every day if she was just strong enough to do so.
It seems with the rise of books/documentaries like the secret this is a common idea among people.
From what I have experienced you cannot simply just choose happiness or sadness. Your choices have to be a change in the material conditions that facilitate your happiness and sadness. You can’t continue to do the same exact things when you were sad or angry and think just telling yourself these things make you happy actually will. Your emotions towards these things are valid and should signal in you a desire to change. So changing your understanding of the world around you and changing your behavior will help garner incremental improvements. But the real improvements will come when environment is changed. That is when you will truly begin to see a shift in your emotional state and well being. A change in people, places, and things as the fellowships would call it.
These are the lessons I have learned through quitting a high paying job to chase my dream as a social change agent using dialectical materialism as my guide.
I hope this helps.
With Revolutionary Love,